Regret cheating on my wife, she wants divorce

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Today, 02:23 AM	? #1 (permalink)
Registered User ? Join Date: Nov 2012 Posts: 9	Previously, I have posted several topics about me cheating on my wife. My wife actually employed a private investigator to follow me and discovered my affair with my 6months mistress. Initially, my wife still wants to give me chance, but I chose to move out with mistress for 2weeks. Wife discovered from private investigator with photo and video evidence. Now wife wants divorce, she is very firm with it.. Her heart has hardened.. That's when I totally wake up... I want my wife back... I stayed home and we are still sleeping on the same bed and still in talking terms. Wife wishes me all the best with my mistress, but now... I actually badly want my wife back and totally no intention to stick with my mistress. I actually beg my wife to give me a second chance.. But she said no.. She has given up hope on me. The divorce letter is going to be out in 2days time, she expects me to sign without drama, she is not going to claim alimony and only expect me to pay our daughter her monthly living expense which I am okay with it... Now the thing is... I really want my wife back... I did some soul searching.. Deep in me, I love my wife a lot a lot... I am prepared to give up my mistress (which is maybe too late now)... I am in a desperate situation and I can't eat sleep well for the past 4days... Non stop thinking about my wife.. Is there any idea to get my wife back?? She is not seeing anyone now.. Or shall I give up?? And start a new life with mistress?? **I know I deserve all these sh!t.. I am the one causing all this and karma has already got back to me..*** I really want to change my ways and be a good dad and husband.. I swear!! Posted via Mobile Device
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Today, 06:06 AM	? #10 (permalink)
Member ? Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: The Most DANGEROUS City in America! Posts: 1,180	MOVE ON. Of course she still weeps; she's crying for the life she THOUGHT she was going to have with you, the future she THOUGHT you were going to have together, the family she THOUGHT you were building with your little girl. It's all gone now! And for what? For a different piece of azz! Some woman telling you how smart and funny you are. Meanwhile, the woman who has stuck with you for 5+ years is treated like trash; the child YOU CREATED TOGETHER has just had her life turned upside-down...and for what? A different piece of azz and some woman telling you how smart and funny you are! Move on. Learn the lesson. Become the man your daughter deserves as a father - faithful, honest, reliable, upright, strong, respectful of others and worthy of HER respect. YOU WILL BE TEACHING YOUR DAUGHTER how a "man" acts. START doing it right!
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Today, 06:18 AM	? #12 (permalink)
Member ? Join Date: Sep 2012 Posts: 40	Quote: Initially, my wife still wants to give me chance, but I chose to move out with mistress for 2weeks. It seems that she was willing to give you a chance before, but you didn't take it and now that you realize how firm that she is you want it back. I've heard that even thought some women forgive their men, there's always something lingering, some hurt and resentment, as well as inability to trust anymore, that would end up destroying the relationship anyways. In other words, the issue will always be there, it will never be forgotten. Maybe for some women they would still take the chance, if they really love their men, but it's big suffering for them. It might or might not work in the end.
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